Why are you Lonely?

This article is going to start a series based on the feeling of loneliness.  The first obvious reason one may feel lonely is by being alone.  If that is the case then the answer is simple: spend time with others. However, it is not that simple when people are surrounded by others and feel lonely. These articles are going to address the problem of feeling lonely in  a crowd. Read more

Sitting on the Fence

When I was younger, this expression meant that I had left one property boundary and was perched on the fence and about perhaps to move off to the other side and the other property be it a yard, the woods, the road, etc.   The expression is often times used in a way that is illustrative like this…. Read more

Positivity without Definite Purpose?

I was recently reading Napoleon Hill’s Keys to Success.  He made a claim in the chapter about positive mental attitude(PMA)  that it is impossible to maintain PMA without a definite purpose.  What does he mean by definite purpose?  It would be like Henry Ford having a purpose of making the automobile affordable so everyone can see God’s wide open spaces. Read more

The Chemistry of Escape Behaviors

The study of escape behaviors has led to making new discoveries about how it works not only mentally but also physically.  For example, there are several chemicals released in a sex addicts body.  These chemicals include adrenalin, serotonin, dopamine, catecholamine, and oxytocin.  These same chemicals are related to the ones released in a heroine addicts brain.  Read more

Boredom a Pain Event?

A pain event by SFT Awareness standards is anything one does not like.  People quickly identify things like a loss of a loved one or losing a job. However, an often overlooked pain event is boredom.  An addict is especially susceptible to acting out because of boredom.  It is not uncommon to hear about people eating, watching porn, or using because of boredom.  The following are some tips to avoid using out of boredom. Read more

What is Surrender?

The word surrender is typically used in a war context.  A side in war surrenders when they are up against a superior force that they cannot beat.  Likewise, an escape behavior becomes a superior force that cannot be beaten by self will. Too many battles have been lost, morale is low, and resources are used up.  The only option left is to surrender. However, rather than surrender to the power of the escape behavior, we surrender to a superior force who is our ally God. Read more

Why White Knuckle it?

I was recently talking with an addict I know who said his sponsor asked if he hated his addiction or as we say in SFT, escape behavior.  He is at the point where he can say yes he hates his escape behavior he struggles with.  Why is this question so important?  Because not hating an escape behavior leads to white knuckling. Read more

Life Lessons from Fishing

Fishing is an outdoor activity that went from a coffee can full of worms to a science.  Fisherman today understand the habits and habitat of fish more than ever.  Many who pick up a rod and reel have at least a basic idea of what fish are supposed to be biting on. However, anyone who has fished long enough have had days where fish just weren’t doing what they were supposed to be doing.  That is when the angler has to face the decision of whether to “be right” and continue doing what is supposed to happen or change with what the fish are doing.  Read more

Habitual Positivity

Recently I was asked if it is possible for someone who seems hopelessly negative to learn to think positive.  I could appreciate the question as I personally have had a very melancholy view of the world.  The answer I gave is exactly what I have learned for myself over the years. Read more

Humility is Active, not Passive

           

Humility is one of the foundational concepts we teach at SFT Awareness.  It is a concept that some people are afraid to practice for fear of becoming a doormat.  There are others who practice it as a doormat proving the former correct.  However, it is false to view humility in the doormat perspective. Read more

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