In 1954 Julian B. Rotter came up with the idea of people having a locus of control. Locus is Latin for location. People either have an internal or external locus of control. What that means is a person is swayed by what is going on externally or internally. A ship being blown in the direction of whichever way the wind blows will not make it to its destination. In needs a helmsman at the wheel telling the ship where to go. [Read more…]
Ron Wilkins, the founder of SFT Awareness, passed away in 2008. Before he passed he left us with a book on how to remove emotional pain. Many have wondered when we will offer this book online. We are proud to say it is here.
You can order Ron’s book Removing Emotional Pain through our store.
The first session I work with people I explain an introduction to removing emotional pain. Part of that is explaining that a pain event is anything I do not like. That includes major life changing events and minor ones as well. I also tell them that pain events are going to happen as a part of living in our broken world. Therefore, it is important to learn how to process our emotional pain. However, I also tell them that many pain events can be prevented. In fact, many pain events we find are not pain events at all but they are simply neutral. It is my opinion that it is bad or wrong that makes it one to me. [Read more…]
Last week I had the privilege of going to Buda/Kyle church of Christ in Texas and assisting people whose homes were damaged from the flood in May. The first house we worked on was an old house that had been in this family for generations. The first thing we must do to the house is trash everything inside it and tear out drywall and insulation due to mold. The goal is to get everything out that needs to be taken out so we can get it livable again. It soon became apparent that the house will more than likely be condemned. We continued to work anyway in case it wasn’t. However, the inspector came and said it was condemned. [Read more…]
Some time ago I wrote articles on Why I am Lonely part 1 and part 2. We are finally getting to part 3. Part 1 talked about shame as a reason for loneliness. Part 2 talked about low self-image as a cause for loneliness. Part 3 is all about lack of communication skills. The inability to communicate effectively with others can obviously create the feeling of being lonely while being surrounded by people. [Read more…]